The Three Types of Love in the Bible

Irrespective of your status, race or the economics, everyone values love & recognizes that it is love that shapes what is true and good. The term “love” has always been used so broadly to describe a strong feeling or emotion towards, for, or between someone or something, and more specific definitions of love for different relationships have been considered over the years. But there are three kinds of love in the Bible and these are Eros, Agape and Philos


Eros is a Greek term which actually means desire and longing. And according to the Greek methodology, Eros is the name of the Greek god of love. Also referred to as erotic love, this is a selfish kind of love as it associated with physical intimacy. Eros love is based on the strong feeling we have against one another and it usually develops during the 1st stage of a romantic relationship. This kind of love is based on the physical traits. This type of love can end up being possessive, since it always seeks to 1st conquer and then control.

According to the Bible, God created physical attraction, but never intended for it to be selfish. He created desire and longing which makes up physical intimacy which is crucial in any marriage. This love was meant to be preserved between a couple and it is essential for any healthy marriage. And since it is mostly based on self-benefit, many people tend to fall out of love if they are not happy with the marriage.


In the Bible, this is a special term which represents the divine-love of the Lord towards his Son Jesus Christ, the human beings and all believers. This is the best and strongest of the 3 types of love in the bible, in fact Jesus himself showed this type of divine love to his Dad in heaven and humanity. Agape love is the love that God commanded all believers to have for everyone whether he/she is a believer or not. Agape love should never be determined by our feelings; it is more of a set of behaviors or actions. With agape, you do not have to actually feel it for you to give it, which means that you can be able to show love without feeling anything at all. At times feelings can follow after showing this kind of love.


Phileo love is a unique kind of love like the one you have for a companion or pal. It refers to loving one another just like your brother or sister. This love is for a pal who is really close and dear to us and it is characterized by various different shared experiences between two people. In fact this is the kind of love that many Christians tend to practice towards one another. And although phileo love is really wonderful, it is not very reliable, since it can end up souring at times as we have all experienced at some point in our lives.