Companionate love includes both intimacy and commitment but passion is not included in companionate love. It is a kind of love that includes a very deep commitment to one another. It is very stronger than any other love because of the addition of the commitment. In order to understand the companionate love first, we need to understand the triangular theory of love.
Triangular Theory of Love
According to the Sternberg’s Theory of Love also known as the Triangular Theory of Love which presented in 1985 by Robert Sternberg, love is based on three components – Intimacy, Passion and Commitment. According to the theory, intimacy is the feeling of closeness, attachment, and connectedness of two persons. Passion is an intenseness which you experience when you like some person. On the other hand, commitment connects Intimacy and passion means it is both short and long-term decisions and the promises to stick with one another and also plan for the future. There are 6 forms of love which are the combinations of the three components.
Companionate love is also known as an affectionate love. Intimacy, in this case, is not physical intimacy but a close familiarity. For example – The types of conversations one would have with their closest friends. In companionate love commitment is everything. The person who is being devoted to and working towards for staying with someone. It is a person’s dedication to a relationship. Companionate love is seen as a lifelong commitment to another person. This is a very deep, caring and affectionate love.
Factors of Companionate Love
1.Equity – One main factor of this love is equity which means both the partners receive equal to what they give for each other or you give what you get.
- Self-Disclosure – In this type of love, the partners reveal all the details about themselves like their dreams, their pasts, their worries, their future, their fears etc. It creates a deeper bond between them.
This love is more of an attachment or a commitment. than any other loves. It’s a commitment in this love that they will stay together in any circumstances. It is more than just a desire for the partner.
Companionate Love Examples
- It is seen in a long-term relationship where you don’t need passion in order to stay in love with your partner.
- A long-term marriage where the passion has left but not the deep affection for one another.
- Among family members.
- Close friends who have a very strong and deep friendship.